Breaking up with partners or lovers can be hard. It can be even harder when there are children involved. Sometimes you might need a bit of space to figure things out or time to just be by yourself. You might find putting some limits around phone, e-mail or face-to-face contact for a while gives you a little bit of space to think things through. You may want to consider talking things through with a counsellor.

For some lesbians "coming out" can place a huge strain on relationships with parents, siblings and friends. It's important to talk these through with someone.

Try calling the Gay and Lesbian Counselling Service (GLCS) - 1800 184 527 - or counselling teams available through a Women's Health Centre, ACON, Community Health Centre or Sexual Health Centre.