Breaking up with partners or lovers can be hard. Sometimes you might need a bit of space to figure things out or time to just be by yourself. You might find putting some limits around phone, e-mail or face-to-face contact for a while gives you a little bit of space to think things through. You may want to consider talking things through with a counsellor.

For some gay men, "coming out" can place a huge strain on relationships with parents, siblings and friends. It's important to talk these through with someone.

Support is also available to married gay and bisexual men via the Gay and Married Men's Association (GAMMA) which operates out of Sydney.

Try calling the Gay and Lesbian Counselling Service (GLCS) - 1800 184 527 - or counselling teams available through ACON, Community Health Centres or Sexual Health Services.