All gay men have the right to live safely, free from violence and abuse in our relationships, communities, and the wider society. Violence against gay men can take the form of ongoing harassment, intimidation, verbal abuse and/or physical assault. Domestic violence also occurs within gay relationships. Violence or threats of violence can change our decision making abilities, our judgements and how we deal with things. It is not always easy to acknowledge situations of violence and it can be difficult to deal with. The reality and impact of violence cannot be underestimated. Although you may feel isolated, there are people who can offer support.

The Lesbian and Gay Anti-Violence Project (AVP) can take a report of what has happened and talk to you about your options.

If you would like to talk to the police, there are Police Gay and Lesbian Liaison Officers (GLLOs) and Domestic Violence Liaison Officers (DVLOs) who you can ask for. You are also entitled to ask to speak with a female officer if you prefer.

You might like to talk to a counsellor or social worker too - contact the DV Line (24 hour) court support scheme on 1800 656 463, or the AVP on 1800 805 379.

Violence and abuse can take many forms. It includes, but is not limited to:

• Physical: punching, hitting, pushing, threats of physical harm, use of a weapon
• Emotional: criticising, ridiculing, degrading, creating fear, stalking, threatening to 'out' you
• Sexual: forced sex or specific sexual acts
• Social: controlling who you see, access to info, groups and organisations
• Property: destroying personal items, breaking furniture, hurting pets

Violence is a crime. In any situation if you fear for your safety - call 000.

If you have a mobile phone, dialling 112 overrides any locks on the phone and connects you to emergency services.